A real man polishes his woman

She didn't force herself on you in the first place, why then do you have to punish her with your scarcity? Why do you avoid her now that another person is becoming appealing to you? What do you gain from the tears of an innocent lady who trusted you with her heart? You are now acting "over-busy".
"Come back and continue what you started o", Someone should call that guy for me.
You thought growing "beards" was the same thing as competence. When you were busy promising her heaven and earth, you didn't remember that you'll be expected to prove it. Now that she has finally decided to shut the gates and love only you, you have started acting drama.
Wanting to be in a relationship could be exciting but the actual work is in having to remain faithful in it. This doesn't just happen; it must be intentionally planned and I am telling you, it is achievable.
The love experience can be renewed and made sweeter every moment. Celebrate your relationship and it will appreciate. Choose to complain everyday and you'll water it down. Don't promise her marriage yet moving your eyes around the whole town seeking whom to devour. You can't even love one person well and you are digging your early grave looking for another to add.
Focus that attention and energy on the lady God has given you for a wife. There is nothing outside. I once admired a lady from a distance for her prestigious strength of physical beauty. She was an angel until the day I heard her react foolishly to a misunderstanding. I covered my heart and gave a testimony that it didn't go beyond distant admiration. You never know who the real angel is until you polish the lady you are almost trading for nothing; that one that stood by you when you had nothing but certificates; that one that inconvenienced her comfort just to make sure that you don't die before your time; that one that saw a future in you that others were too blind to see. That one that listened to you when you had no voice. That one that endured your past because she believed in your tomorrow.
She probably couldn't speak English when you were receiving all her care but now, you've ridiculed her, you now need a classy babe. Stop all this nonsense guy! Can't you see the number of broken hearts that are credited to your account? What do you want with your life? Is King Solomon your mentor on relationship?
By way of conclusion, God gives good gifts; it is your duty to polish your spouse to your taste. Whether you use groundnut oil, it's up to you; keep her shinning, smiling and enviable-that is what matters.

4 ways to spot a relationship that is rich in commitment.

Let's quickly consider some evidences of commitment.

a) Responsibility exceeds excuses:
Anyone that avoids responsibility doesn't want to grow; not even in love. Follow up your partner's commitment level by how much of a performer he/she is at work, in the family, among friends.

b) Efforts motivate continuity.
Anyone that threatens to break away every now and then is not safe for love with you.

c) Investment flows selflessly:
Commitment shows in how much you give to meet needs in your relationship. Giving ideas for instance, giving your time, giving finances, giving your protection. Many times, people don't give not because they don't have but because they don't consider the circumstances worth the sacrifice. Guy, lady, Commitment means going the extra miles for each other.

d) Interest overshadows differences.
When you're committed, you should be interested. You don't stop calling him/her for weeks and you claim you're in love? You're not! Find something else and call it. Genuine lovers bombard themselves with expressions of interest.
Your partner shares a pressing issue with you and you waive it to your selfishness—you're not in love.
Make the first best impression at singlehood. How can a relationship be this dry at engagement stage?
Interest also implies that you don't threaten to quit a thriving relationship every now and then. You don't let the dirt stain the purpose for your relationship. You deal with the dirts and keep the purpose alive.

When unserious people fall in love.

When it's obvious that you don't truly have a name to describe the feeling that's existing between you and a lady or vice versa, watch your back. Don't call it a relationship to fulfil all righteousness.
So many lovers have fallen into the arms of each other not truly knowing what they are doing or what's pushing them. While one of them is thinking that they are in a relationship, the other can't remember asking for or consenting to one.
How can two people be in a relationship yet they are not aware of how it started? It is only weeds that grow that way ; they grow where they were not planted.
Don't start a relationship where CONVICTION is questionable. Lady, anyone that is interested in you should be able to explain clearly how convinced he is that you are a better complement of him. He should also be patient enough to give you some time to be convinced about an answer for him—whether YES Or NO! Any relationship that puts you under pressure to say YES to it should be placed on a red alert.
Friend, be sensitive to know when friendships are producing deeper emotional feelings and attractions than normal and raise it up for discussion. In such a case, ask your friend what's going on. Don't assume that it's still the friendship you knew. Many people have crossed the line just like that and the other person was not aware. While one person thought that they were still friends, the other was already working with the vision of a love relationship.
Relationships are clearly initiated with an expression of interest and intention for acceptance or rejection. It is not a hide and seek game. It is not not a game of feelings. It's not a game of two nice people. It's a serious matter.
FOUNDATION PRINCIPLES:
- Relationships shouldn't grow like weeds. Nobody grooms a weed.
- Many people that want a love relationship don't actually need it.
- When you are not certain of what you want out of a person, you'll not know how to maximize the privilege of connection.
- Refuse to assume that a relationship had started when it was not initiated.
- Certainty triggers commitment. Don't expect a level of commitment from an uncertain relationship.
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Be the judge: Are you dating or in bondage?

"I really really really want to know her. I can't marry someone I've not known in and out."
"He says he is not yet ready for marriage and that he doesn't really know when he would be ready."
"My policy is straight. Any lady that doesn't meet my standards, I dump her immediately and start all over with another lady. After all, they are not scarce."
These are just few out of multiple cases to welcome you into this subject. Never in a time had the world been so wicked than it is today. Many people hang around your life, not because they want to progress with you. Truth!
It's dangerous to unlock commitment towards a relationship where mutual understanding of expected direction is not known and shown. Don't be too blind to ask questions. After you've said YES to welcome a relationship, there's no idle time; every time spent in the relationship should be progressive with clear targets and milestones. That's how you know people that are heading somewhere.
4 years have gone yet he has not said anything pointing to a marital commitment, but see the way two of you parade the streets in uniform as if you were identical twins. You pass food flasks in the name of making sure he doesn't lack food, stop over to clean his house, even move over to live with him, and you claim you're dating? No, you're joking!
In his indecision, see the way he gets jealous over every guy that blinks in your direction and you can't see an enemy of progress tying you down?
"I am thinking that he really really wants to know me before he makes the next move".
Well, for your information, some wonderful couples have been married for decades and are still discovering new things about themselves in love. So, how long do you think he can be with you to know you so well—5 years?
Oga, kindly stop all this hide and seek childish game and mean business. If you can't then, you have no business hanging around someone's daughter. Make up your mind to succeed with your life. Be decisive and take actions. Everyone needs grace to love, including the person attempting to love to you.
Stop changing ladies like diapers. It doesn't make you a man. How can a man at 35 still not care about "this marriage of a thing?" Meanwhile, he is a comfortable flirt, destroying the souls of other ladies, promising them marriage but only as a license to mess them up.
The sad part is that he'll wake up at 45, claiming he now wants to settle down, looking for a 22 year old innocent girl to imprison. The lady will sheepishly follow this ancestor. Hey lady, who will train your children?
Guy, if you mean to marry her, mean business. Rise up and work it out. Go to work then return! Stop hiding under 'I love you' and collecting the little she labours to save. She is not your microfinance bank.
"If you can't provide, don't wake up love"; you'll leave it hanging for too long. The problem is not that at the time she accepted you, you had nothing in your pocket. It's disturbing that after she has accepted to marry you, nothing still excites you to work. Jacob showed Rachael how much he loved her by working for 14 years just to secure her. Lady, when next a guy displays his feelings anyhow around you, ask him to show you his Work.
Get my message: The above are just few instances and reasons why marriage appears impossible to many.
A successful marriage is not determined by the length of dating/ courtship. Long lasting dating and long lasting marriage are not the same thing. They are not synonyms. You can't know anyone well enough than he/she is willing to show. Haven't you ever heard people say: "when I married you, you were not like this"? Most of them dated for 5 years.
Marriage is sustained by the grace of God with two human beings who are willing to grow in understanding; who are ready to stand their feet on sound decisions as matters arise.
Lady, a guy keeping you longer than necessary without working towards fulfilling his intentions towards you may not truly see the need to marry you especially, if he has been doing biology practicals with you. Who knows? Any nonsense is still possible.
© LoVe sPEcIaL..
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Marriage is more than just a ring.

How beautiful it is to marry a spouse who values God as his/her source and nourishment! Someone who has a testimony of salvation, a thriving spiritual root or better, a teachable spirit that can willingly take up the call to spiritual growth. Someone who will love you better because he/she loves the Lord and readily magnets the virtues of His likeness.
Life is designed by God in a way as to pull us closer to Him. Until you come to the point where your life depends on God and not on your spouse, nor moral standard, you are missing something valuable.
To what extent is your relationship drawing you closer to God? To what extent has it helped you increase your spiritual values? To what extent is your relationship pleasing God? To what extent has carnality been disadvantaged in your relationship because you've found the fear of God in your spouse-to-be as an aid to building yours.
The spiritual flavour around your life will determine the future stability of your relationship and marriage. A relationship truly has a future if the two partners are leading in individual spirituality. As a child of God, don't settle for just anybody. Marry someone who is rich towards God. Marry someone whom you share Jesus with as a mutual friend. Marry someone who connects with your spiritual background, ideologies, beliefs and convictions.
No one is truly rich enough in anything else if he is not yet rich in God. No one is rich enough in wisdom if he is not rich in God. A lot of beautiful wives out there are not useful to God. Same goes for the husbands. Who will teach your children the ways of God?
If indeed you are spiritual, marry your kind. Be a witness to your partner's spiritual investment and growth. Set your eyes on your kind. Don't manage an unbeliever hoping that he will some day change. He might kill you first. Marry someone whose God is your God. Marry someone who can bring God's presence into your home. Marry someone who can listen to God's voice even in your voice. Marry someone whose voice of worship can wake you up with a hunger to want some more of God. Marry someone who will show your children the ways of God.
Spirituality influences marital success. Marriage should be the fusion of two spiritual beings that God is working on everyday.
Beware! Don't promise marriage to an unbeliever. Can your love withstand his/her roots? If it's too hard to find a relationship with God, don't make it too cheap for him/her to find you.
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